I remember talking to a girlfriend when my first daughter was nine months old. The past nine months had been hard. I had struggled with a difficult and scary birthing experience and had definitely battled some baby blues. But I was figuring it out – “If I just force myself to take a shower and brush my teeth every day, it makes the baby-crying and the sleep deprivation just a little easier.” My girlfriend didn’t have children yet. She was silent. I regretted my confession – sometimes I don’t shower…sometimes I don’t brush my teeth! I have to REMIND myself to take care of myself. When you cross over to the world of motherhood, a lot of things change. And while most of the changes are unbelievably wonderful, there are definitely some changes that make the transition tough. For example, I never knew that I’d have to share so much of myself – share time, share my bed, share the shower, my clothes, my lipstick, and my dessert. I can get so lost in my kids that I have to make a conscious effort to remember who I am – to do things that make me feel good or I never get around to it and I end up feeling like I’m drowning. In the evenings, I create. I spend all day wading through laundry, toys, dishes, and tangles – when the kids go to bed, I HAVE to do something creative, every night. I have a bucket list of things that I know make me feel good – sew, bake, blog, etc. But during the day, I have a bucket list, too. Brush teeth, take a shower, drink coffee. They’re the basics in self-care, really, and I don’t dedicate a lot of time beyond that to beautify myself.